Category Archives: Europe Weddings

Andrea und Christian | Reken, Deutschland

Three years ago, another German wedding. But at that time you were Bridesmaid and Groomsman. There were jokes about the two of you getting married, although it already seemed something bound to be. You Christian, showed photographs of younger times as evidence of how Marian und Meike discovered one another. You Andrea, got teary eyes as Meike was putting on her dress. You smiled, and laughed, and danced, and singed, and even made the Bochum Police stayed a bit after they had showed up at 2am to quiet the music tracks being played aloud.

Three years ago you were Andrea und Christian; three years after it was someone else turn to shed some tears while watching Andrea und Christian mit Jonas getting ready for a natural, honest and candid wedding.

And we discussed this: how time goes by very fast. And how the older one gets, the more sensitive one becomes to said passing. Specially when we have become parents.

Three years ago I just met you and hardly knew anything about your lives. And while there is still plenty I would like to know, I am now – and have been for a while – sure to call you friends. And to honestly feel happy to see you growing as individuals, as a couple, and as a family. What will the future bring? Maybe three years from now? The answer is of course unknown, but the wish that it may be as plentiful and exciting as it has been for you will remain.

I thank you for letting me be part of your day. For calling me a friend and for the opportunity to meet your families. I got to be a bit German while discussing life, love, the world and the town with them and with you. I got to be photographer and guest. I got to be happy for you.




Photographed by: Ian Balam | Venue: Alte Windmühle | Destination: Reken, Germany

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Lucie & Tiago | Lisboa, Portugal

[“Pedra por pedra e ao longo dos anos, temos vindo a desenhar a nossa calçada. Definimos o sentido e o padrão do nosso passeio, na medida em que íamos aprendendo um com o outro. Por vezes preto, outras branco. Diferente, assim como nós, é esse o mundo de contrastes que o distingue. As assimetrias motivam o espaço entre as pedras, por vezes pequeno outras maior, mas sempre fazem parte de efeito final… O próximo passo”]

 Step, step, step, step. The words themselves say something about a movement. Read them again, read them out loud: step, step, step, tic-tac, tic-tac, tic-tac. And the walk becomes a waltz; a romanza between the one and the one mingled into the two. And the “two” are supposed to follow a compass during their walk and their waltz, but it often happens, when the romanza is such, that their movement becomes the compass: one that dictates the time for each step; one that points towards the horizon into which they walk to. And you are black and white, asymmetry, contrast. And when thought from this perspective, marriage, your marriage, is not the next step but a consequence of yours. You are while you walk. Muito obrigado Lucie and Tiago for allowing me to walk in your calçada.

Photographed by: Ian Balam & Lili Rojo | Venue: Cristo Rei | Destination: Lisboa, Portugal

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Meike & Marian | Bochum, Germany

[I do, I do, I do”]

Summer night in Germany (rainy, of course) before the wedding. We can hear the rain as well as feel the cool breeze inside the tent that has been set up in Uncle Willy’s garden; beautiful soulful garden. Beer in hand (german beer, no less) we discuss marriage. We joke with Marian about the phrase he had to practice all night long: “I do, I do, I do”. I ask both M&M what will the wedding do for their relation. They agree: nothing, but it does not mean that it is a meaningless experience. Quite the opposite… But then, how can nothing, be something? Because marriage is not something you do, it is something you are. Being in a relation is something that makes a one and one a two. The one becomes a pair, a couple. M&M won’t do a marriage work, they will-be married. There was a wedding, but before and after it: a relation, a bond. Yours. Being married is something you are liebe Marian und Meike. And I, a witness of the expressive moment of “we are” that took place on your wedding day. For this: Danke schön meine freunde.

 Photographed by: Ian Balam & Lili Rojo | Venue: Opas Haus | Destination: Bochum, Germany

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